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Children Loved By Grace-Energized Mothers

Titus 2:4


God is love, the greatest of all Christian virtues is love, and love energized by God lasts
forever.
What can the most powerful aspect of a wife and mother’s life on earth obeying God’s
calling to her life? God wants it to be her grace-energized love.
What does God say will last forever from all the endless and mostly unseen hours of
work that being a wife and mother entail? All the deeds offered in obedience to the Lord
produced by grace-energized-love.
In Titus 2:4 we find the key that produces eternal reward from every day of a graceenergized-wife’s marriage and a grace-energized-mother’s family. Paul explains that the
key is love. The first calling of a wife and mother is in God’s Word to be LOVE.
[Our] gifts, [and our] ministries… all one day will cease to exist because they will
cease to have purpose or meaning… But our showing love [to our husbands and
children], practicing [that] love, [and] living [ that] love now–are of utmost
importance, more important than having any of the other virtues or gifts, because
love is the link God gives us with His eternal Self
1.
God is love (I John 4:8), and everyone who is born of God loves (I John 4:7)—so the
greatest of all the virtues, the one that will last forever, is love (I Corinthians 13:13).
The key to grace-energized lives, marriages, and families is love.
Just as love that is prompted by the Spirit and energized by God’s grace as Peter said,
covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8), so the absence of that love causes a
multitude of sins. Love is eternal, love is supreme, and love is most like God for God is
love!
As we study Titus 2 this morning we are looking back into a world where so few had
ever known or felt real, Biblical love. The culture of Rome was driven by mighty armies,
over-powering architecture and engineering, and Emperors known for their power.
1 1MacArthur, John F., The MacArthur New Testament Commentary: I Corinthians 13:13, (Chicago: Moody Press) 1983.
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To Romans and Cretans, those who were loving, sensitive, and caring were viewed as
being weak. Only the tough could endure all the hardness of the day. So the entrance of
love as the top-two qualities that wives and mothers were to possess must have been
shocking to these early church believers in Crete.
Love was rarely seen in every day life and culture in the Roman world. So this gentle,
sensitive, grace-energized love was to become a powerful witness in the culture of
century one. Jesus had already said that by this shall all know that you are My disciples,
by your love. So that is why Paul says… Grace-energized-mothers love their children.
That is the second phrase of Titus 2:4
v. 4c “to love their children”
This characteristic is one word in the Greek text, philoteknos; and it means to be a
lover of children, so grace-energized-mothers love their children. That is what God says
through Paul. And this love is
phileo love that can be felt. That is a grace-energizedmother’s special ministry in Christ’s church2!
Just the fact that these words were inspired by God to come to His saints means that
this was not common, this was not easy, and this was not normal. This type of love just
doesn’t “happen” because God wants it, it is a choice, it is a lesson to be learned
3, and it
is a factor that determines a believer’s eternal reward in Heaven.
The Bible clearly explains and illustrates this love that was modeled by Christ. This
special
phileo love is demonstrated by Jesus Himself. This type of close, companionship
and friendship, emotional love is how Christ’s relationship is described with Lazarus
(John 11:3) and with “the disciple He loved” named John (John 20:2). This is also the
word used in Revelation 3:19 for Christ’s love for true saints in His church.
Jesus demonstrated His love to Lazarus and all who saw that friendship knew how close
they were. The same was seen in Christ’s closeness to the Apostle John. That is how
Jesus loves us, and wants us to know He loves us, feeling His closeness, and enjoying
His friendship.
And that
phileo love that is emotional, close, and visible is what the Lord asks from
grace-energized mothers towards their children.
Give the Priceless
Gift of Love
4
2 Christ’s church has a mission that Paul summarized as pleasing God (I Thessalonians 4:1). This mission is accomplished by the proclamation of a message Paul summarized as the
gospel of grace (Acts 20:24). The message of gr+ace—that God did everything possible to be done and anyone can come to Him merely by faith seems impossible. But the most
amazing part of all that the Lord is doing is His plan to do all this by
a method is spelled out in Titus 2:11-14—Paul summarized as energized by God’s grace to live in a way that is
otherwise impossible.
3 From time to time it becomes so very hard to take care of children that a mom of any century in history no longer “feels” positive feelings towards her children. So how did God instruct
Paul to prepare Christ’s church for these great social challenges and family pressures? Again, Titus 2 has the solution. God says that the way that tired, burned out, and depressed
mothers get relief is from the faithful army of Titus 2 grace-energized role models.
4 These ideas are adapted from The Blessing (Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1986, Nashville) and The Blessing Workbook (Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1993, Nashville) by Gary Smalley
and John Trent, Ph.D.

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Do your loved ones in your family feel your love?
Many husbands think that their wives admire other men more than them as they relate
how, “So-and-so’s husband does this and that with his children or for his wife”. Those
men do not feel the loving respect and admiration of their wives.
Likewise, many wives feel that their husbands think other women are either better at
caring for their husbands, prettier, or better at caring for their families than they are.
Those
women do not feel the love of their husbands.
But most importantly for Titus 2 mothers energized by grace, we need to consider that
many kids hurt because they sense that their parents don’t even
like them.
We already saw how Paul cultivated this type of love with a needy young man named
Timothy. The mighty pastor of the church at Ephesus was also a young man with many
physical and emotional needs. Paul loved Timothy with a love that could be seen and
felt.
Paul loved Timothy with love he could feel. Paul “affirmed” Timothy, and used tender
and encouraging words to help him as his son in the faith Timothy. These exhortations
were tenderly given to a struggling man.
Without attending the actual classes Paul helped Titus begin, where would we start for a
way to understand in a practical way this love that was to be characteristic of those
energized by God to live by His grace in the homes and marriages of Crete? I believe
that–
Jesus Showed us
How to Love
Who would be the best example of a person who modeled this love that was considered
humanly impossible? The answer would be the only One who ever perfectly lived out
God’s will. You see, Titus 2 living is God’s will for every one of us today and all the
yesterday’s back to when Paul wrote these words.
But only One ever lived out God’s grace-energized love and that was Jesus
5.
Christ’s life reveals a perfect example of love. That is why Peter, writing just after Paul
wrote to Titus, tells us that Jesus Christ’s life is an example that we should follow ‘in His
steps’ (I Peter 2:21). As we consider how grace-energized mothers love their children,
we can learn so much from the ways that our Lord Jesus Christ loved those He came to
serve during His earthly ministry.
5 Jesus and phileo love are seen in the New Testament as: the love God has for Christ (John 5:20); the love Jesus had for Lazarus (John 11:3, 36); the love God has for us, and that we
have for Jesus (John 16:27); the love Jesus had for John (John 20:2); and the love Jesus has for believers (Revelation 3:19).

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Jesus communicated His love to the disciples and others in several ways. He told them
that He loved them. He showed them that He loved them (like serving them and
touching them). Jesus is the perfect model of showing love that could be felt. One of the
clearest ways Jesus showed His love was when He spoke and blessed His disciples.
What was the last memory all the disciples had of Jesus? As we turn to Luke 24 lets
remember some details about when Jesus ascended into Heaven. What was He doing as
He left? Have you ever noticed that little insight Luke gives us?
We already know from Acts 1:8-12 that Jesus took the disciples to the Mt. of Olives and
then ascended up into the clouds and out of their sight. That is the picture of Christ’s
final moments with the disciples we remember most, but there is a second account that
gives some precious details we have often missed. Turn back to Luke 24:50-53, and
stand with me as we read this precious event:
Luke 24:50-53 And He led them out as far as Bethany, and He lifted up His
hands and blessed them
. 51 Now it came to pass, while He blessed them,
that He was parted from them and carried up into heaven
. 52 And they
worshiped Him, and returned to Jerusalem with great joy,53 and were continually
in the temple praising and
blessing God. Amen. (NKJV)
Pray
Those men would never forget walking with Jesus for 3 ½ year, they would never forget
Christ’s death, burial, and resurrection; but what would be riveted in their minds? It
would be that incredible moment of the last time they saw Him here on Earth.
Their friend, their Savior, their most precious Lord of all left them in a most touching
way.
Jesus lifted up His hands and gave them the most unforgettable expression of His
personal love as touched each of them with His blessing!
Think about that. Jesus was very careful what He did as He left His disciples, and the
picture they would have deeply etched in their minds is Christ’s loving, prayerful
blessing raining down upon them as He was lifted upward and out of sight.
Christ’s Words Powerfully
Expressed His love
Those words of blessing raining down upon them must have been remembered over and
over in the days ahead. Words have such power for good or evil. What kind of words do
you “rain down” upon those you are speaking to in life? And what are those who listen to
your words remembering? Are they “blessed” by what you said?

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Turn back with me to what Peter told us in I Peter 3. After talking about the basic
building blocks of society and the church (marriage and family) he concludes with an
incredible postscript:
1 Peter 3:8-9 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one
another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; 9 not returning evil for
evil or reviling for reviling (
spoken curses), but on the contrary blessing,
knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.
In the New Testament a “blessing” we offer to a loved one is basically a prayer of
encouragement for them. So, energized by grace–
Loving Mothers
Bless Their Children
Blessing (2127 eulogeo ) is a verb used 44 times in the New Testament that means: “to
praise [your loved one], to celebrate [them] with praises [that] invoke [God’s] blessings
and consecrate [your loved one] with solemn prayers [that] ask God’s blessing on [your
loved one] to cause [them] to prosper, to make [them] happy, to bestow blessings [that
they be] favored by God.”6
That is why Peter says to the church so strongly, watch out for how you “rain down”
your words upon others.
1 Peter 3:9 not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary
blessing
, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.
So Peter basically says those who love with Christ’s power, “sow words of blessing and
you will reap a harvest of blessing.” What a powerful motivation to primarily use our
words, mouths, and voices to bless others in Christ’s Name!
And that is what we get from nearly every one of the 44 times the work “bless” is used
in the New Testament (14 x in Luke). Here are some of the key verses:
ƒ [blessing often involves touching] Mark 10:16 And He took them up in His
arms, put His hands on them, and
blessed them.
ƒ [blessing often points to the future] Luke 2:34 Then Simeon blessed them,
and said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this Child is destined for the fall and rising
of many in Israel, and for a sign which will be spoken against
ƒ [blessing is usually hard but always very rewarding] Luke 6:28 “bless
those
who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you.
6Enhanced Strong’s Lexicon, (Oak Harbor, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.) 1995.
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ƒ [lest we miss it Paul repeats the habit of blessing as part of Christ’s
church’s mandate]
Romans 12:14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and
do not curse
.
ƒ [there was a Spirit-prompted work of blessing in the early church
services]
1 Corinthians 14:16 Otherwise, if you bless with the spirit, how will
he who occupies the place of the uninformed say “Amen” at your giving of thanks,
since he does not understand what you say?
ƒ [heroes of the faith made it their last act like Christ’s to stretch out their
hands and bless those they loved]
Hebrews 11:20-21 By faith Isaac blessed
Jacob and Esau
concerning things to come.21 By faith Jacob, when he was
dying,
blessed each of the sons of Joseph, and worshiped, leaning on the top
of his staff.
Why should we learn to share a blessing with our families? Because a blessing shared,
and the whole expression of love that it gives helps those we love know in a visible way
that we love them. Blessing those we love is a memorable way they can remember
feeling and hearing our love.
Do you ever remember your mother or father telling you out loud, in a clear and loving
voice that they loved you and admired some qualities they had seen in your life?
Those words just stay in our hearts for a lifetime. My own mom and dad often told me
how much they saw the Lord’s Hand in my life and what great things they believed God
would do in my life—and my dad who is still alive continues saying that on a weekly
basis! This type of love expressed is actually a reflection of what God taught as–
Old Testament
Blessings
One of the key descriptions of how God wanted His people blessed comes from the
instructions to the priests. In the Jewish community the priests were the public servants,
they inspected for disease, they protected the food supply, housing, dealt with domestic
issues, and of course represented the people to God. In the New Testament we are to all
be priests, and in a real sense, we are called like them to bless those around us.
Numbers 6:23-27 (NKJV) “Speak to Aaron and his sons, saying, ‘This is the way
you shall bless the children of Israel. Say to them: “The Lord bless you and keep
you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The Lord lift
up His countenance upon you, And give you peace.” ’ “So they shall put My name
on the children of Israel, and I will bless them.”
This idea of the blessing of the people was so woven into the fabric of the life of God’s
chosen people of promise the Jews that they began to make a specific verbal blessing
time to be part of the private family Sabbath meal.

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One of the most moving Shabbat (Jewish Sabbath) traditions is the blessing over the
children given on Friday night. There are many variations on how the blessing is made.
The most common custom is for the father walks around the table, puts his hands on
each family members head, and blesses them.
Go back in your mind to where we started.
Luke 24:50-53 And He led them out as far as Bethany, and He lifted up His
hands and blessed them
. 51 Now it came to pass, while He blessed them,
that He was parted from them and carried up into heaven
. 52 And they
worshiped Him, and returned to Jerusalem with great joy,53 and were continually
in the temple praising and
blessing God. Amen. (NKJV)
Those men would never forget walking with Jesus for 3 ½ year, they would never forget
Christ’s death, burial, and resurrection; but what would be riveted in their minds? It
would be that incredible moment of the last time they saw Him here on Earth.
Their friend, their Savior, their most precious Lord of all left them in a most touching
way.
Jesus lifted up His hands and gave them the most unforgettable expression of His
personal love as touched each of them with His blessing!
Think about that. Jesus was very careful what He did as He left His disciples, and the
picture they would have deeply etched in their minds is Christ’s loving, prayerful
blessing raining down upon them as He was lifted upward and out of sight.
They felt His love. Those words of blessing raining down upon them must have been
remembered over and over in the days ahead.
Words have such power for good or evil. What kind of words do you “rain down” upon
those you are speaking to? And what are those who listen to your words remembering?
Do they feel your love?

 
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